The Internet Doesn't Mean You Don't Have to Write Thank You Notes

By Leslie Horn on at

The internet has changed the rules for a lot of things: dating, buying groceries, ordering takeout, etc. to the power of 10. But it hasn't changed basic manners. Meaning, you still have to write thank you notes.

A Facebook post or a Twitter @reply is not a sufficient acknowledgment of thanks. Neither is an Instagram post. Here's a series of great examples of what not to do, courtesy the great Kim Kardashian:

The Internet Doesn't Mean You Don't Have To Write Thank You Notes

Okay Kim, wow, nice gift. Cute Kenzo sweatshirt. Do they make it in my size? I'm sure Nori will love it. But an Instagram post with an X Pro II tint does not a proper thank you make. You should write a note addressed directly to the gift-giver. Even a thank you email would suffice. In fact, the internet makes the hand-written expression of gratitude all the more meaningful. People almost never write them, and they almost always should.

The Internet Doesn't Mean You Don't Have To Write Thank You Notes

I know this is a tough pill to swallow, but do not follow the example set by Kim K when it comes to both sex tapes and general etiquette. It's not the sentiment that's the problem, or even the act itself. I often tweet or Facebook about a gift someone has given me. Hey look I made a pie from that cookbook you gave me. But that's only after the thank you note has been posted. The social media acknowledgment is an add-on, not a thanks unto itself.

The Internet Doesn't Mean You Don't Have To Write Thank You Notes

I'm not your mother, but listen to me like I am for a sec. You may not like writing thank you notes, but you have to do it. Someone was thoughtful enough to give you a gift? Send them a little note. Otherwise, you are an ingrate. It doesn't even have to be long. So next time someone gives you a present or does something nice to you, pull out a pen, and pop a note in the post.

FYI you will need a stamp [/stamp/, noun: a small adhesive piece of paper stuck to something to show that an amount of money has been paid, in particular a postage stamp].